Tips for successful co-parenting after divorce
Posted by Thomas Pettinicchi of D'Amico & Pettinicchi, LLC on Aug 07, 2012 in Child Custody
Divorce can be a challenging time for families. Major changes occur, including where members of the family live and who they spend most of their time with. After child custody agreements are finalized, however, there is still more to figure out. If the custody arrangement involves children spending time with both parents, determining how parenting will continue post-divorce may be beneficial.
Here are some tips for how to make co-parenting work after a divorce.
1. As long as children are safe, allowing one's co-parent to follow his or her own parenting style will eliminate potential arguments.
2. Clear communication with the co-parent will help children transition between households more smoothly. Planning times to discuss details, such as transporting or feeding children on a certain day, can eliminate confusion later on.
3. While exes likely do not wish to maintain a close relationship with each other, it is important that children have the opportunity to decide for themselves what their relationships with each parent will be like. Instead of discouraging children from having a relationship with their other parent, promote a positive relationship.
4. Consider your children's interests when deciding whether or how often in-laws will see children. If in-laws and extended family of the co-parent were close to children before the divorce, children will likely benefit from continuing these relationships.
Establishing a fitting custody arrangement during a divorce will help post-divorce co-parenting go more smoothly. Whether a child custody agreement has already been worked out with the help of an attorney or is in the process of being decided, living out the custody arrangement may require some planning ahead.
Source: Huffington Post, "Make smart choices for post-divorce co-parenting success," Rosalind Sedacca, July 23, 2012