Co-parenting this Thanksgiving? Here are some tips
Posted by Thomas Pettinicchi of D'Amico & Pettinicchi, LLC on Nov 20, 2012 in Child Custody
Holidays can come with equal parts joy and anxiety for most adults in Connecticut. The fun that comes with festive events eventually turns into stress about busy schedules and travel conditions. This can be especially true for divorced or unmarried parents who share custody of a child.
With Thanksgiving coming up this week, the holidays are in full swing and it won't be long before parents may have to make some difficult decisions and compromises when it comes to custody of a child. However, there are some helpful tips for parents to consider if and when they are struggling to come to some agreements during this hectic time of year.
Parents should discuss holiday schedules and plans with each other sooner rather than later. This ensures that each one has plenty of time to adjust other scheduled events if necessary. Last-minute decisions or leaving difficult planning issues up to the child can only add stress to an already tense time. Once parents have developed and agreed upon any changes to a regular custody arrangement, they should make every effort to follow the new plans.
After schedules are established, parents should make the most of their time with and without their child. This can include rearranging family events to coincide with a child being home, and maybe saving nights out with friends for times when the child is with his or her other parent.
It is also recommended that parents keep the holidays in perspective. In a couple months, the craziness will be over and regular schedules can be re-established. This may be true when it comes to traditions, as well. Some should still be observed, but parents often want to split or share these important customs. Instead of bickering over every single one, parents can come up with new traditions that are unique to that parent's time with a child.
When it comes to holidays and family events, it is important to remain focused on what is best for a child. This time of year can be very exciting for kids, and parents can have a significant effect on whether it will be a time of fun memories or stressful arguments.
Source: The Huffington Post, "Holiday Survival," Claire N. Barnes, Nov. 19, 2012